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by ۓښ (goacidic)
at August 8th, 2011 (11:36 pm)

just filled this out for a girl on tumblr, thought people here might be interested and maybe wana join in :)
http://coffeewithants.tumblr.com/post/8627185146

[b]What age did you stop shaving?[/b]

Got lazy with it around 17 or 18, but stopped shaving my armpits and crotch around 19/20 I think, but I still shaved my legs (very occasionally or just in summer) up until I was 22. I'm now 23. I used shave/pluck my eyebrows but i don't touch them now. I love their natural shape and think it looks so much better, the extra hairs give them so much more definition.

[b]What made you want to stop shaving?[/b]

At first it was mostly because of comfort. I got insanely itchy after shaving, especially my legs. I hated it, it made them go red and blotchy and look "worse" than if they were stubbly or hairy. I didn't see the point. I also just hated how high-maintenance it was, and spending money on razors etc just because the media and society says it's better, sexier, and "more feminine" for women to be pristine hairless dolls. It also went hand in hand with my growing distaste for advertising, my consciousness of the objectification of women in media and many forms of pornography.

[b]What parts of your body do you not shave?[/b]

The only I part I shave now is the sides of my head (i've got a dreadhawk)

[b]Do you get harassed in public for not shaving? [/b]

I thought I would, but no, never.

[b]What kind of things are said/done to you?[/b]

see above… although, people do sometimes stare, but then I wonder if maybe I just think they are staring. I don't care though, in fact I enjoy that something so simple as the hair on my body can be challenge for them and that it might make them think, and become more open to the idea that we shouldn't HAVE to shave.

[b]Do you find it’s more from female identified people than male identified?[/b]

YES. In fact, it's only been women who have stared at me.

[b]What do you say to people who say you are less feminine for not shaving?[/b]

That they should perhaps re-evaluate their definition of "feminine"… think about the fact that women grow hair naturally, think about the fact that shaving products were marketed to women only AFTER they were marketed to men, think about the fact that our generation have been bombarded with images of hairless women since we were born and that maybe, just maybe it has had an effect. and really just talk about how utterly obvious it is that this is merely the product of consumerism, and controlling people through their sexuality and how they desire to appear to others.

[b]Do you think you can wear make up, and do other such feminine things and still not shave? Why or why not?[/b]

Well, it's of course hard to think of things in such black and white terms. I certainly think that women should never feel like they HAVE to shave, but I think they should have the right to if they wish, and if they truly, TRULY feel comfortable and informed about why they are doing it. I still wear some make up, although I will admit that it probably is because of society's standards, psychologically i feel like i look "better" when i bring out my eyes more with eyeliner and a bit of dark shadow, some mascara. but i don't cake myself in it because i think every inch of my skin is unacceptable, i don't run to the bathroom every 2 minutes to touch it up, i don't care if people see me without any, i don't spend money on it on a regular basis. just the same as if i chose to sometimes shave, i wouldn't feel like an ugly disgusting manly freak if i happened to not shave for a week or two and have some stubble. i think this is where the problem lies, and i think the idea that we have to keep ourselves "groomed" and to such a strict schedule actually breeds MORE body image issues and lacks true confidence building because it makes you AFRAID to let your true body be on show.

[b]What does femininity mean to you?[/b]

i suppose it means being true to and happy with yourself, and seeing yourself for what you really are and have potential to be, on your own terms, no one else's. i feel more feminine when i allow my body to be in it's truly natural, feminine state, i see my body hair as a symbol of my true femininity. but this extends far greater beyond the realms of beauty and self image, it extends to mental, emotional capabilities and how we communicate these and our positive traits and aspects to others, how we can nurture the things that matter to us and give everything that is possible to those who might need it.

Comments

Posted by: fastejef (fastejef)
Posted at: November 3rd, 2011 11:55 pm (UTC)

Great writing! I want you to follow up to this topic!?!

Posted by: ۓښ (goacidic)
Posted at: November 4th, 2011 12:06 am (UTC)

What would you like to know? :)

Posted by: wooki1 (wooki1)
Posted at: December 23rd, 2011 10:40 pm (UTC)

Bumping

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