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by flwrpwr_vampyre (flwrpwr_vampyre)
at May 28th, 2011 (07:08 am)

So this isn't a new problem to this site but I'm easing back into that whole dating thing. I've been asked out by a dude and it's not that I really care about getting him specifically. It's more I'm afraid my chances of getting laid will go down exponentially with me having pit hair. My brother suggested trimming and easing the dude into the whole thing. Which seems like a fairly decent idea since it won't get rid of it completely. This isn't a question post specifically, I just wanted to talk about it with like minded women - cis or otherwise.

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Posted by: Quinn (quentinwrites)
Posted at: May 28th, 2011 12:23 pm (UTC)
TV - President Simpson

I don't want to have sex with any person who doesn't respect me, hairy pits and all. I have too much self-respect for that.

Posted by: Michael (cingulus)
Posted at: May 28th, 2011 12:41 pm (UTC)

In my experience, "getting laid" isn't a problem for a girl who's sexually attractive to begin with.

Pit hair is mainly a social thing. If he's the sort of guy who couldn't handle being seen with a girl who lets her underarms grow free, he might still have sex with you (if that's all you want) but he's unlikely to have a relationship with you.

Posted by: rose (mushyasparagus)
Posted at: May 28th, 2011 04:48 pm (UTC)

Story time, I guess:
I had shallow flings with several guys, who were of the pretty conventional mindset about body hair. Even though it was casual, they were way more about me, and what we were up to, than my body hair. But if/when we talked about it, they learned that I did it for a few different reasons. As they had known me for a bit beforehand, they already respected me for my strength of character and they knew I was quirky/bold/ME anyway. They were already fans of mine. And, even if the body hair wasn't a turn on, they didn't mind it. They would all still stroke my legs, and hold my arms down, up around my head in bed, which exposed my pit hair, but they didn't care.

It made me a little more unique. It showed "I don't give a damn [about oppressive beauty standards], and I am strong, confident, and beautiful in my natural state: Take it or leave it, Take me or leave me. If you like me, or at least want my time and my body, you'll deal with it."

I think dudes who are worth it can handle it.

Posted by: rose (mushyasparagus)
Posted at: May 28th, 2011 04:49 pm (UTC)

Let them celebrate you for you!

And don't sweat it. You got this, Girlfriend.

Posted by: saturn bloat (midwinter)
Posted at: May 31st, 2011 01:27 am (UTC)
like your own heart beating

This.

Posted by: /dripping.wi†h.alchemy/ (hollowdoll)
Posted at: May 30th, 2011 03:59 pm (UTC)
hug

You'd be surprised. When I was doing the online dating thing, I eventually put it on my profile to make sure I had decent folk contacting me only, but even before I did, I'd make sure it'd come out before we met. And yanno, fewer guys than you'd think really do care. Usually most aren't gushing and falling all over themselves to see/play with it, but the majority who aren't admirers tend to be sort of "meh" about it after a certain point in time. Personally, I dated a string of men - some heavy admirers, some "meh" - before I found the one I'm dating now who isn't exactly a heavy admirer but is still surprisingly supportive and does prefer it to a degree. It's not as overwhelming of an issue as you'd think. I wouldn't worry about it if I were you :)

Posted by: flwrpwr_vampyre (flwrpwr_vampyre)
Posted at: May 30th, 2011 06:42 pm (UTC)

Yeah that's what I'm going to do I think. Besides, after reflecting on it I'd feel like crap if I did trim it because it's part of me. So regardless to whether he liked me or not with it I'd still feel like it wasn't really me.

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